Happiness and your personal finances, life in general

We’ve all heard the old saying, “money can’t buy you happiness”. But certainly, many would argue against this. “If I was out of debt I would be happy, all of my problems would go away” many have said. “If I were rich I could have all the girls in the world, a mansion, a pool, a Ferrari, and I wouldn’t have anything to worry about.” But would you really have happiness? I doubt it, even though you may be a bit happier than you are now, you still will never be truly happy until you can learn how to be happy regardless of your financial situation, life situation, or in any other situation. Regardless of what you could have if you had millions or billions, you would always want more, more, more, and you would never be truly be happy.  Ultimately, you will be never be satisfied with what you have, unless you make the decision to be happy now.

If you can make the decision to be happy right now while you’re in over your head in debt, not getting along with your spouse or significant other, or dealing with whatever other issue you’re having with people around you, you will be on the path to true happiness. It’s easier said than done though, right? Wrong.

Let’s take a guy named Bill for example, and show how his situation is not as bad as he’s making it out to be and how he can be happy regardless of what’s going on his life. Bill recently found out his wife has been having an affair for the last two years of his marriage, on top of that his wife racked up thousands in debt that he never knew about while entertaining her new beau. On top of all that, his house is worth $300,000 less than he bought it for just a few years earlier because of the housing crisis. Not to mention, his wife threatened to take away his kids if Bill decides to go through and divorce him. Besides losing his wife and kids, Bill will not have any money and will have to start over from scratch. Moreover, because Bill was the major money maker in his home, he will now be required to pay child support and alimony. Man, Bill cannot find any good in his situation and feels completely miserable and depressed, he feels he has nothing to live for now. He’s even contemplating suicide, since he believes there’s nothing to live for. He was hoping to travel the world with his wife in about 10 years when he retired, and now that will never happen.

The problem Bill has, he’s looking at all of those things as sources for happiness, money, his wife, his kids, and so on. Instead, Bill has to find happiness inside himself and say without anything, without a dime to his name, he can be happy some way or somehow. But how? Start thinking differently. What does Bill have? Bill has his health, his kids will be out of the house in a few years and can come live with him if they choose, Bill has the opportunity to go out and explore the world on his own and meet new people. Even if that means in his own town. Bill has the clothes on his back and has other family that can certainly support him. Bill has his job. Bill has the ability to claim bankruptcy and start over. Bill has the ability to enjoy life if he chooses without spending a dime. Bill has learned that his soon to be ex-wife was not the right person for him and there’s probably someone better out there for him anyway. Bill can learn how to become self sufficient and frugal, and learn how to cook healthy on a tight budget. There is so much Bill can look forward to in his situation, there’s no since in him dwelling on what he doesn’t have.

Too many people walk around complaining about their situation or whatever is up their butt that day, instead of comparing themselves to other less fortunate people. A lady in the elevator today was complaining how miserably hot is what outside as she walked into the A/C to her job while sporting her fancy dress and high heels, she was just dying she proclaimed. Instead of complaining and being unhappy, maybe think about the soldiers in Afghanistan who are walking around with 50 pounds of gear around their body in 120 degree temperartures, just happy to get a cold drink of water and sit in the shade for a few minutes.

Your life is only as happy or miserable as you make it out to be. Materialism will only make you artificially happy for so long, you’ve got to change the way you think about life, or walk around miserable for the rest of your existence. It seems like an easy decision to me. That’s not to say it won’t be a struggle to change your mind set, but every time a bad thought comes across your head, see if you can turn it into a positive thought in some manner. Compare your situation to other worse situations, and suddenly something that seemed horrible, is really not that bad, and in time you will get through it.

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2 Comment

  1. chas says:

    good stuff but who is proofreading this?

  2. Corina says:

    I couldn’t agree with you more. Many of us are so consumed by the issues and problems in our lives that we tend to ignore all the positivity that can come out of our situation. Happiness is not as hard to achieve as you may think and money can not buy you happiness in the long run. If you can’t afford to travel the world then take up international opportunities like teaching english abroad or volunteering abroad. There are ways of making things happen, you just have to make them happen rather than drowning in your misery.

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